If anything has earned “boogeyman” status in health & wellness circles, it’s stress. Stress has been linked to the 6 leading causes of death: heart disease, accidents, cancer, liver disease, lung ailments, and suicide. Google “avoid stress” and you’ll be able to pick from more than 148 million results. The American Institute of Stress estimates that the effects of chronic stress cost nearly $600 billion a year in the US alone. Just the stress of worrying about our stress is stressing us...
If anything has earned “boogeyman” status in health & wellness circles, it’s stress. Stress has been linked to the 6 leading causes of death: heart disease, accidents, cancer, liver disease, lung ailments, and suicide. Google “avoid stress” and you’ll be able to pick from more than 148 million results. The American Institute of Stress estimates that the effects of chronic stress cost nearly $600 billion a year in the US alone. Just the stress of worrying about our stress is stressing us out!
But not all stress is equal—every human being has a natural ability to respond to different stressors in different ways. The key to being brilliant at stress, then, is understanding that your body can do more than “fight or flight”: You can consciously choose a healthier response.
What Stress Really Is
Hans Selye, who’s widely credited with discovering stress back in the 1930s, called it “the nonspecific response of the body to any demand” (the demand itself is the stressor). To date, researchers haven’t agreed upon a scientific definition for stress, but generally they say that it’s the “experience of anticipating or encountering adversity in one’s goal-related efforts.”
Selye found 3 universal responses to coping with any stressor; they’ve come to be called, most simply, the stress syndrome.
It’s the Reaction, Not the Stress
While you probably won’t face an actual lion at lunchtime, there’s no shortage of stressors in modern life. Instead of hungry predators, maybe you’re thinking about finances, relationships, housing, or family. Positive events can be stressors, too, like landing a new job or planning a big party. Add in smaller day-to-day problems—a traffic jam when you’re already late, a sudden big expense, a computer crash—and taking your chances on the savannah might not seem so scary after all.
You can’t relax away every stressor in your life…so are you just doomed? No! It’s not the stress, but your reaction to it, that makes all the difference.
Researchers have long recognized that the human body has a bigger repertoire of response to stress than just fight or flight. Back in 1955, Dr. Albert Ellis developed an approach called Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy to help people “identify, challenge, and replace their self-defeating beliefs with healthier ones that promote emotional well-being.” At Harvard, Dr. Jeremy Jamieson, et al., has shown that stress alone isn’t what’s dangerous, it’s the perception of it—“changing the way we think about our bodily responses,” he said, “can improve our physiological and cognitive reactions to stressful events” and “reappraising [stress] arousal shows physiological and cognitive benefits.”
You Don’t Want a Stress-Free Life
In her eye-opening 2013 TED Talk and her 2015 book The Upside of Stress, Dr. Kelly McGonigal focuses on several recent research studies suggesting “stress may only be bad for you if you believe that to be the case.” Instead of letting a chronic, “always-on” stress response take a slow toll on your body and mind, she proposes, you can choose a healthier mindset (belief) for dealing with it.
McGonigal proposes that “you don’t feel stress about things that you don’t care about.” Another way to think about stress, then, is to interpret it as reflecting how much you care about things that have special meaning in your life—a stress-free life, then, would also be devoid of meaning. Who wants that? If shifting your perceptions can change stress from a killer crisis to an affirmation of what’s meaningful to you, maybe it could also be a new way to feel some control over the stressor and its effects.
You Can Choose: Threat or Challenge
Instead of trying to categorize all stress at the same level—all good (hard to believe) or all bad (hard to survive)—McGonigal sees a middle way: choosing the difference between a threat and a challenge.
Most important, McGonigal points out, studies have shown repeatedly that it’s not the absence of a stress response, but the presence of a challenge response that helps you perform well under pressure. Changing your perception of your stress response can help turn a dangerous physical crisis into an empowering physical resource.
Let Stress Do Its Job for You, Not on You
Stress will always be part of life. Relaxation has its place (and feels so good)—but of all the tools and strategies that can help you manage stress well, what makes the biggest difference is your mindset. Instead of seeing stress as an overwhelming enemy, you can choose to work with your body’s natural capabilities and see it as a tool for your success.
Choosing a healthier stress response in line with your body’s natural capacities also makes it easier to try additional tactics when you need a little extra reinforcement—whether it’s meditation or talking to someone, getting some exercise or supplementing your diet with extra nutritional support.
The key to being brilliant at stress—that is, stress response—is knowing that it’s a powerful support tool that can help you take charge and rise to the occasion, whenever you need it. You’ve got this! (Sorry, lion.)
Stress affects everyone, but each of us has the power to shape its effects. Dig deeper into these resources for more ways to take control of your stress response and live your most meaningful life!
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Albert Ellis Institute, “Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy.” Accessed Mar. 9, 2017.
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Kelly McGonigal, “How to Make Stress Your Friend,” TED Talk, June 2013. Accessed Mar. 7, 2017.
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